a friend's father passed away early this morning. he had been in the icu for a week but was declared brain dead later on so the family decided to just give him supportive treatment and wait. i can just imagine what my friend must have gone through & what she is still going through at the moment. im sure her being the only doctor in the family & being the patient's daughter at that made it more difficult for her. she knew from the very start what her dad's condition was even without talking to the attending physicians and explaining things to your mom & the rest of the family then later coming up with a decision on what should be done is a task that must have taken lots of courage. for the doctor part, it is easy to say let him go, we can't do anything anymore but the daughter part would want to hold on as long as possible. i wouldn't want to be in that position because i know it would surely tear me apart.

i know i have been a good daughter but im not perfect. and for all those times, im sorry mom & dad! i may not say it often but you know i love you both!

p.s.

a word of advice from a collegue who lost

both her parents already:

"never give your parents grief. always show them

you love them while they are still w/ you because

you'll never know when they will be taken from you."